Jen glanced up from her textbook just in time to see the entire bookshelf collapse under the pressure of the books. The silence of the library was broken by gasps throughout the room. The librarian shrieked and those closest reached out to help steady the shelves – to no avail. Caught up in the frenzy of the disturbance, Jen held her hand to her mouth as she tried to muffled the giggles which threatened to escape. Turning quickly from the scene, her eyes caught a young man’s glance who was also trying to maintain good library etiquette. Quickly they both made their way through the exit doors bursting into laughter as their feet crossed the threshold.
They had a moment. A connection.
With the internet in our pockets and purses, connectivity is easy. In 2015 the average office worker received 121 emails per day and sent 40 per day. Connecting is easy. We have Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, Pinterest, Linkedin, Google+ and more!!! Imagine: Facebook has approximately 1.18 billion clicks each day!
That’s a bunch of connecting! But…Connectivity isn't Connection. Click To Tweet
Connecting is easy. But what we long for as people – isn’t connecting – it’s making a connection.
Making connections with others fills our love tanks. Have you heard of a married couple that digressed to feeling like roommates? Living together year after year, they become caught up in the daily routine: Going to work, caring for the children, drop offs, pickups, birthdays, errands, housework, bills – and on and on.
Oh sure, they connect daily, but they fail to make a connection. What’s the difference?
Sharing a review or record of what’s happening
Discussion of issues that need attention and have to be resolved
Tackling of responsibilities together
Actually, making a connection is more relational.
Making a connection is:
Sharing with your loved one what’s on your mind
Listening with your heart and eyes
Responding to his/her sharing
Being Authentic and Genuine
When you make a connection with another person your souls meet. And in marriage, we are disappointed when this doesn’t happen regularly. In friendships, if we don’t have that connection – even sparsely – friendships drift.
Keeping the connection in our relationships requires being intentional.
It requires compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. God knows and He longs for us to be in meaningful relationships with each other:
It’s what we long for as humans. We want to share, we want to feel heard, we want to be understood.
Don’t underestimate the role you play. Every day you are involved in relationships that you impact. As we reach out to make an authentic connection with others, we impact them in ways we cannot comprehend. Being connected
Be intentional today. Make a connection (or two)! It’s a skill you can develop….
When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.
~ Ernest Hemingway
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