When you were little, I would daydream about what you would be like when you grew up. Would you be kind? Generous? Stingy? A saver? A spender? We moms think of all these kinds of things!!
As you’ve grown I’m pleasantly surprised by your character. You are kind, considerate, and self-controlled. You look out for others and consider what affect you have on those around you. You are a thinker. And that means that you don’t enter into much of anything without thinking it through.
One character trait of yours that has surprised me is your loyalty. I suppose that’s because I never really thought about loyalty – except with marriage or dating. Until I noticed how loyal you are.
So – what is loyalty? When I clicked on the synonym finder just now these synonyms popped up:
• Reliability, and more…..
Honestly, I’d have to say every one of those words describes you. And that’s extremely impressive!
I first noticed your loyalty when you stuck by friends that weren’t necessarily good for you. You watched friends go in a different direction than you wanted to go. Even though you wanted to go your separate way, you wouldn’t. You know… it’s similar to a guy who won’t break up with a girl that they know is wrong for them.
One thing that concerns me is that you may not be able to see your loyalty as something that can harm you. Remember, our weaknesses are our strengths out of balance. And Loyalty is definitely one of your strengths!
Loyalty needs a foundation of reality. Loyalty grows over time and should be increased based on evidence of care, trust and respect – from both sides.Loyalty grows over time and should be increased based on care, trust and… Click To Tweet
I know you are trying to do what is right. And I admire that! You’re doing a great job! But loyalty needs a foundation of reality. It grows over time. Honestly, loyalty should be increased when you see acceptance, appreciation, care, trust and respect – from both sides.
Loyalty isn’t a willingness to compromise who you are. When we compromise who we are, we endanger our emotional, physical and spiritual well-being, for something that looks like loyalty but isn’t. Instead, that false loyalty is a slow etching away at your soul – a way of losing who you really are.
Have you ever seen a lady who keeps going back to a guy who beats her? I’d say she’s loyal to the wrong thing/person. Wouldn’t you? And though that’s an extreme case – think about it. It’s pretty easy to be distracted by a loyalty that is focused on something we shouldn’t be loyal to.
I want to encourage you to look at those things that grab your time and attention.
Are these things worth your loyalty? Do they offer you acceptance, appreciation, care and respect? Are you better for it? Take some time to really consider each area.
You’re an amazing person! If I weren’t your mom, I’d love to be your friend! Your friends are blessed by your devotion to them. When you get married you will be an amazing spouse that will stand loyal through thick and thin! I am so proud of who you are.
With all my love,
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